Dating During Divorce With Children

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Sex and Dating During Divorce

“Is it okay if I go out on a date?” asked my client, “John”. He had filed for divorce and taken his own apartment. “After fighting with my wife for two years, “I’d like be to be with someone who is glad to have me around.”

I get this question all the time as a divorce attorney. And, my simple answer is always the same: “Not until your divorce is final.” But, life is rarely simple. “John” was lonely and stressed out. Meeting someone new, feeling desirable again, and having fun struck him as a terrific idea. So, despite my cautions, and like many clients, “John” decided it “couldn’t hurt” to accept a friend’s offer to fix him up. Anticipating this, I gave “John” the do’s and don’ts of dating before you are divorced.

Unfortunately, there is more that you shouldn’t do than should, but first let’s clarify what is meant by “dating”. Legally, “dating” means one-on-one social contact with another person, typically the opposite sex. There is no distinction between platonic contacts and ones that are romantic or sexual, although from a practical standpoint, the romantic/sexual relationships are the ones that draw scrutiny and cause complications.

The reason divorce lawyers counsel against dating while the divorce is pending, even if separated, is that it has the potential to increase both the cost and the stress of the divorce trial. You are not supposed to date if you are married. Judges, however, rarely punish someone who begins datinga”sexually or otherwisea”once they have physically separated from their spouse.

Even so, the presence of someone new, particularly when paraded in front of the spouse and/or children, can enrage the soon to be ex-husband or wife, and also create the suspicion that the relationship began as an “affair” before the separation. The innocent new friend can be deposed by the other side’s lawyer (that is, asked questions under oath) and subpoenaed to testify at trial. The purpose is to determine exactly when the relationship began, is it sexual, did any marital property get transferred, such as by gift, how much money was spent on dating this person, and did the spouse say anything that could be used against him or her at trial. Even if everything is on the up and up, the result is a lot of unnecessary aggravation and cost.

But, for those unwilling to wait, here are a few guidelines for dating while divorcing:

The Don’ts

  • Don’t even consider dating until you have physically separated even if you/your spouse agree that the marriage is over. It could be cited as a reason the marriage failed and lead a judge to award more of the marital assets to your spouse.
  • Once separated, date with the utmost propriety, particularly around your children. Don’t do anything in front of them that you wouldn’t be comfortable describing to a judge. Avoid introducing them to your new sweetheart. It will likely exacerbate their pain and could compromise your future custody rights.
  • Don’t get pregnant or impregnate someone before the divorce is final. It will prolong your case until the baby’s born so the court can verify who is the father, and determine custody and support requirements.

The Do’s

  • Do socialize in groups, being careful not to pair off with someone.
  • It’s okay to attend events individually and network socially. If you meet someone you like, be upfront about your situation. Exchange contact information, but avoid one-on-one contact until you are at least separated.
  • Find a support group for people in the midst of a divorce. Typically, these will be offered at churches or other non-profit organizations.

About the author: Cynthia M. Fox is a Missouri attorney and mediator located in Clayton, MO. Her web site is She has pioneered a new approach to divorce called The ConstructiveDivorce as well as handling a wide variety of other family law matters in more than 25 years of practice. Reading or following the information in this article does not create an attorney-client relationship with Cynthia Fox.


Frequently Asked Questions

    Is it ok to date during process of divorce?
    My spouse and I are getting divorced, it’s non complicated because he has already moved out, we have nothing together and neither one of us has children. I would really like to start dating again but I am unsure if it’s a good idea or not. We both also agreed the divorce is a good thing and we are on good terms with each other. Please help.

    • ANSWER:
      I don’t see why not, since you don’t have any children . But I think I would keep a low profile on this until my divorce was final. If you date you could go to another part of town. where you would not likely run into your ex. for appearance sake, You probably know your ex’s favorite place to go, so you could avoid them. Good luck.

    When is it okay to date during / after a divorce?
    The short version: my husband attacked me in October, I left with our child. I begged him for counseling / medical help. He gave me a lot of lip service but really didn’t do anything, then claims the week before the divorce hearing (which is next week) that he’s made all these appointments for help now. Although I don’t pretend to know what the future holds, am not stopping divorce now because to be honest, I don’t trust him and think this is just more talk. I spend all of my time with my 3 year old, and when she’s at visitation (with supervisors) I clean the house, shop and work.

    I’ve started getting a lot of pressure to start dating (am that girl that everyone thinks is too “good of a catch” to be at home on the weekend), and though I know I am NOT ready for that yet, was wondering what “you all” thought about the right time to start dating again?

    Please don’t give me the whole “when you are ready” -that I know – I mean hypothetical timelines.

    • ANSWER:
      The big thing you need to know is how you define dating. Face it, you need adult company. There is a compromise to be found here. I suggest maybe getting out for a coffee. Or maybe lunch. Casual enough to allow you to sidestep the “Dating” awkwardness.

      Lunch is a good start. Not too much worry about the guy trying to chew the buttons off your blouse at 1:00 PM. And you can always fake an appointment if things get ugly.

      Don’t expect a timeline. You are too individual. I suggest telling your friends who are pressuring you to date to work on their own lives. Maybe they have good intentions for you, but you can always say “not right now dammit”.

    child custody during marriage/divorce?
    My husband is a Cpl in the Marine Corps. In August I got a letter to vacate base housing (since he was removed from the house for more than thirty days). I than moved my three sons (oldest is from a previous relationship) back to my home state and my husband’s home of record, Wisconsin. Despite earlier conversations of my move back to WI, (before the notice to vacate) my husband now refused to let me move. I went to base legal to go over my divorce paperwork and they explained to me that the best option for me was to move and how to do it legally. I followed their instructions. He also informed me that once I got to WI there would be a residency issue since I was a military spouse and did not retain duel residency. Me and my children were in WI for four months when my husband came back on pre-deployment leave. I released both of our children and my oldest son to him for the term of his leave. He had assured me that he would return them in thirteen days. He than dropped my oldest son off at his father’s house five days before he told me he would return the children. My son’s step mother called me and warned me about the truck being packed when my son was dropped off. I called my father in law to find out what was going on and he told me as far as he knew my husband was supposed to be back at the end of the weekend. A couple of hours later I got a text informing me that he took the children back to California with him and was filing for full custody. I immediately got a hold of his command and talked to his 1st Sgt. She informed me that my husband assured her that he would be returning the children to me before he deploys at the end of February. She also told me on that topic that he would be required to continue paying support as dictated in the legal admin manual under chapter 15. That support was to help provide residence for the military family and since the children were returning the support would still be paid. A couple of days later I got a phone call from him telling me he was taken off of deployment. I confirmed that he was. Days before he was taken off of deployment I was trying to contact his 1st Sgt again because of a problem with my husband spending the support he had already paid (ten days late) for January. I tried for four days received no response to my phone calls, voice mails or text messages (which was the contact information she provided me with). When I heard about his deployment being canceled I tried more adamantly to get in contact with her, and received a text the following day from my husband not to call her anymore. I than got in contact with the command he detached from before he was going on deployment and the one he would be returning to. I explained to his Master Gunns what was going on. He took down information and told me he would talk to my husband and if he didn’t get back to me that day to call him the next. I called him the next day and he told me he was still working on the issue. I called him again the next day and said that he could do nothing and that my husband had a lawyer and that is who I was to talk to. I have an appointment for base legal on Feb 5 and in the meantime I have an appointment to talk to a free legal consult next Tuesday.

    A little back ground information:
    *before my husband left with the children I was explaining to him that I was waiting on a house to open (through low income housing) I signed the lease on the 19 of Jan.)
    *he filed for divorce the day after he left with the children but filed in the state of WI and has a WI lawyer
    * I have not been served with divorce paperwork yet
    *I had my oldest son enrolled in preschool (he is the only one old enough for it) and speech therapy, and was in the process of setting up a testing date for my middle son for speech therapy as well
    *he has openly accused me of child neglect
    *I am not afraid of a custody battle because I am confident in the way I provide for my children’s’ emotional physical and mental needs. I realize that he can accuse me of anything he wants to but he also has to prove it.
    *my children have been gone since the 15th and I found out he was no longer deploying on the 20th of Jan (the same day)
    I don’t know what to do….. Can someone please give me some advice in the mean time???
    he told me he was taken off of deployment that same day he found out
    (while rereading I thought it might be confusing)

    • ANSWER:
      The only sure answer is to consult a lawyer. I know any judge in any jurisdiction would not be happy with his actions. He would certainly lose credibility in the courts eyes. The big trouble may be that there has been no court orders as far as custody and visitation.
      Does he plan on living in CA? or what? Either way, you need to file an emergency request with your local court or go to California and do it.
      You should do it in a hurry because if he files first, then the jurisdiction is decided and the court location will be set to where he filed.
      Hurry, hurry, hurry and get the ball rolling.
      Good luck

    At what age is it o.k. to be honest with your children about reasons of divorce?
    My daughter is 10 and we have always had a different relationship then her father and her. Let me get this out loud and clear first, her father and I are still friends, happy for each other, and both remarried to wonderful people. There is no animosity towards each other at all. My question stems from my daughters ongoing questions since the divorce occurred 5 years ago. Questions such as:

    Why did you and Dad divorce?
    Dad said that he asked you to get back together and you said “No”, why?
    Dad didn’t do anything to you so why did you leave him?

    . I have always told her that I still care for her father like I do her uncle however our marriage just didn’t work out. We are still friends and care for each other, just not as Husband and Wife. My ex and I met when we were teenagers and I was going through a parental divorce at that time also. I didn’t know who I was and I was very immature. I tell her that we were blessed with her in our marriage and that’s wonderful in its self.

    Here is the big issue. As mentioned, my daughter and I have a MUCH different relationship then she and her father do. This is mainly because he wasn’t around during the majority of our marriage as his passion was nightclubbing, motorcycle clubs, drinking with his buddies, and yes….multiple upon multiple affairs. He couldn’t handle the sound of her crying and just didn’t want to be a father at that time. So I was the one that would always be there for her for joys, concerns, discipline, needs anything. She ALWAYS wanted his attention and didn’t get it. There was always something more important than family life. She will be the best behaved child on earth for him when they are together. Me on the other hand, it has become the pre-teen battle of the girls. She fights me, back talks, is becoming VERY disrespectful and pretty much has the “F” it attitude 75% of the time. It’s challenging to say the least.

    We were in the car the other day and she was in a bad and VERY rude mood. She told me that the way she treats me is because I deserve it for divorcing her father. She said that it was my fault the family wasn’t together and now she has to deal with his new wife. Obviously there is a lot there that is upsetting her and we are in counseling for it, however I so want her to know that I tried so hard in the marriage but her father is really the primary contributor to us breaking up.

    She is becoming more and more defiant toward me and has the impression that I had no right to divorce her father. I have told her (sadly when I was finally broken down in sadness) that the way her father treated me was not the way married people treat each other. That when you are married you don’t kiss other people, you don’t date other people, you come home and have family time together and theses were things that he did or didn’t do while he was married to me. I feel as though I just want to tell her “Your father cheated on me with other women and was never around to be a father or husband for us. It hurt me terribly and I was crying everyday and no one deserves to be treated that way! That is why I left him and you should NEVER let any man do that to you either!”

    Will I ever be able to tell her? My parents and I are very open about what happened during their divorce. It took me forever to be there with them and I honestly believe if I knew then what I know now I wouldn’t have gone down the roads that I hurt so much and caused chaos in my life. I’m afraid that will happen to her.

    What would you do? When would you tell your children the truth?
    Additional information: I NEVER want her to have any bad feelings toward her father. He is a good man. We just didn’t work. My DD verbally attacks me multiple times a day and I’m just wearing down.

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    Kid’s birthday party during divorce? Am I doing the right thing?
    Background: 4 months into marriage I found out my husband was having an emotional affair with his employee, as well as numerous cyber affairs and text affairs with women he met on dating sites. I tried to work on our marriage, but I found out he was still communicating with other women. I filed divorce.

    9 months after filing divorce, it is my only child’s 2nd birthday next month. Last year she had a huge party with friends and his entire family. I have no family here, but he has over 20 immediate family members who come to all holiday events.

    Since the divorce proceedings, his family has stopped inviting me to events, a clear message I am not fully part of the family any longer, and this loss has been extremely painful for me and I am grieving still, over the loss of them, of my husband, of my marriage, of my hopes and dreams, of our future kids…if you have been through divorce I am sure you can understand the deep loss I am feeling. Some days I can barely function the pain and sadness are so great.

    Anyhow, my question is this. I cancelled my daugther’s big party at my in-laws house. His entire family supports my ex even though he cheated and destroyed our marriage and family. They are still nice to me, but have offered me to support with anything. I do not feel comfortable being at my mother in law’s home where the party was supposed to be, because my wedding reception was held there…too many painful memories. I told my ex husband I am having her party at my home, and he is welcome to attend, but I just want a small intimate party for her, and if he wants a family party he can do that on another day with his family.

    he blew up on me and said he wanted the entire family over, he has disregarded my feelings once again, and does not understand the grief I am experiencing, I just dont think I can handle a large party with the people who I once called family. He doesnt understand. How can I get him to understand and to stop being so cruel to me about this?

    thank you.

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Shop Motels On The Rise

Journeying is definitely just about the most crucial elements of each of our day-to-day lives and also preserving this particular in your mind this resort sector has changed the entire concept of lodges very speedily before few years. Today lodges are don’t a location exactly where a single will go because they have not any quick lodging because metropolis although most of these lodges have become in excess of just lodging. Most of these lodges right now provide many other incorporated products and services and also entertainment such as restaurants, pools, gymnasiums, spas and many more.

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Following huge acceptance involving Fresh York’s Morgan resort, numerous shop lodges came into existence almost all around the globe specially within the towns which might be hot spots when it comes to travel and leisure as well as all around them. Let’s get London to give an example. Until eventually some time rear, it absolutely was very difficult to get a single shop resort there although right now shop lodges are located in each and every 2nd avenue and also furthermore, larger lodges can also be switching by themselves in a shop resort. Most of these huge shop lodges are attaining additional acceptance there because the rents are substantial and also small shop lodges will not be workable often. Inside very last all 5 a long time possibly even, numerous shop lodges get obtained huge acceptance with London and also a number of them are Visitor households with Notting Hillside, Baglioni Hotel along with the Soho Hotel with Soho.

In this 2nd example, Venice, every kind involving shop resort can certainly guarantee a huge achievements. Possibly, because of this , exactly why there exists a huge range and also quantity of shop lodges to pick from. One of many Paris’s earliest shop lodges is called Montalembert and it’s based for the still left standard bank. The lodges that were inducted while shop resort very lately are Hotel De Sers based on Road Pierre and also Hotel Sezz located very in close proximity to Eiffel Podium.

The interesting truth about shop lodges is actually how the shop lodges involving North america are somewhat larger than this shop lodges all around the planet and this is actually due to the fact that rents are increased there. However this shop lodges are extremely popular in the united states.

Roughly because the travel and leisure sector will probably develop this resort sector specially this shop resort sector will also develop along with the undeniable fact that this huge hoteliers get started their appearance involving curiosity about shop lodges, might help this particular sector prosper for countless years in to the future.

Effect Divorce On Children

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Effect of internet on teenagers

The Internet has become an indispensable element of life for most people in the contemporary world, and children are not excluded. Because of the ubiquitous availability of Internet access, in schools and libraries, children are increasingly becoming involved in this new technology . As of December 2003, 23 million children in the United States ages 6 to 17 have Internet access at home, which is a threefold increase since 2000 ). According to a survey conducted by the Corporation for Public Broadcasting in July 2002, 78% of family households with children have Internet access at home. A survey by Yahoo and Carat showed that children ages 12 to 17 used the Internet an average of 16.7 hours per week in 2003 ). Given this extensive usage, the Internet has the potential to be a very powerful socialization agent.

The Internet has a double-edged sword characteristic for children: providing many opportunities for learning while exposing children to potentially negative content . The Internet not only provides significant benefits for children, such as research access, socialization, entertainment, and a communication tool with families, but it also connotes negative aspects such as violence, pornography, hate sites, isolation, predators, and commercialism. The Web sites considered detrimental include those dedicated to negative content such as pornography, violent online games, online gambling, and so forth. For example, many children can easily access pornographic content on the Internet. They can also be accidentally exposed to numerous obscene pop-up banner ads and extensive pornographic content when they type seemingly innocent key words into a search engine, for example, the name of a singer such as Britney Spears, Christina Aguilera, or Madonna . According to Finkelhor et al., 25% of the respondents (n = 1,501, ages 10-17) reported receiving unwanted exposure to sexual materials while online, and 19% received a sexual solicitation online.

Despite the potential negative effects on children using the Internet, more than 30% of surveyed parents had not discussed the downside of Internet use with their children , and 62% of parents of teenagers did not realize that their children had visited inappropriate Web sites . Recognizing the ever-serious negative aspects of children using the Internet and parents’ possible underestimation of, or ignorance about, their children’s Internet usage and its effects, this study explores the degree of children’s exposure to negative Internet content and detects the possible discrepancy between what parents think their children are doing online and their children’s actual activities. In doing so, this study carefully dissects the possible causes and consequences of perceived parental control over children’s Internet usage. Concerned that inappropriate Internet content may jeopardize the health or safety of children, the present study is a crucial attempt that aims to address the following research inquires with regard to children’s Internet usage: (a) to understand the degree to which children are exposed to negative Internet content, (b) to detect a possible discrepancy between parents’ perception and children’s actual exposure to negative Internet content, (c) to examine various antecedents explaining perceived parental control over children’s Internet usage, and (d) to suggest various ways to decrease children’s exposure to negative Internet content.

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Frequently Asked Questions

    Can someone help me on my research paper? HOW DOES DIVORCE EFFECT CHILDREN TODAY?
    I need sources for my research paper, and need help finding some really good ones.
    My topic is “How divorce effects children today”.

    • ANSWER:
      I can help you by suggesting you look up the words ‘effect’ and ‘affect’ in the dictionary and then choose the correct word for your paper’s title.

    What are some factors of divorce that effect children?
    Im doing a project and I desperately need help on it. Im looking for some factors that effect children that are caused by divorce. I have parental loss, but what else??

    • ANSWER:
      Children experience different effects based on their age when the parents divorce.

      The very young grow up with this lifestyle and aren’t affected as much when the parents split (one daughter was 2 when I divorced)
      The 5 yr old thought that she was the only one in the world whose parents were getting a divorced. One day she excitedly told me that so-n-so is divorced too. This made her happy.

      In the beginning my 5 yr old wanted her dad and me to get back together. (Now she understands why I divorced him and is very happy that I did.)

      There are school age children who cannot handle their parents divorcing. One actually committed suicide. (This may have happened by accident when he tried to get his parents back together)

      And I know other kids who are relieved and thankful that their parents divorced.

      On the other hand, I also know of school age kids who go to school very troubled due to the problems at home (parents are still together).

      Effects: loneliness, desperation, fear of the unknown, abandonment, anger, relief, none.

      Bottom line: It all depends on their age, what the children were exposed to, and how the parents handle it.

    how does divorce effect children?
    I have to write a magazine article on how divorce effects children? i would appreciate your help thanks :)

    • ANSWER:
      It breaks their hearts. rips their world apart.

      some where along history people started putting themselves first and divorce on a whim.

      tell the kids we both still love you, one or both parents love there own fickle happiness more then their children.

      Sometimes needs does in cases of abuse and such,and probably in those cases the kids are better off but they are still heart broken that their parents didn’t love them enough to stop abusing whatever or whoever they were abusing.

    how much does a divorce effect a 16 year old daughter?
    I know divorce is tough on children, but my wife thinks because our daughter is now 16 it would not be so difficult for her to understand. We also have a 21 year old son. How would a divorce effect children at these ages?

    • ANSWER:
      it will be a geat impact, droping grades at school, self esteem down, confuse, shame, poor sleeping havits, insomnia

    Where Can I Find Info On Effects Of Divorce on Children?
    I’m writing a research paper about how divorce effects children. I need how it affects their behaviors such as likeliness to drink, do drugs and have sex. Please give me answers and/or websites to find this info. thank you!

    • ANSWER:
      Interview divorced children.

      I’ve known several – they turned gay, runaways, shoplifters – drugs, jailed, dropped out of school and living from one friends’ house to another.

Glow Sticks Make Children’s Events Far More Memorable

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Feud On Property Post Divorce – How To Get Possession Of Your House?

When you are getting separated and you wish for custody of the house ask yourself these important questions- Can you really afford the house and can you afford the loan repayments? In most cases the house is given to the partner who is also given custody of the children so that the children’s lives are not affected as much. On the other hand do not become so shrewd as to use the kids as leverage to get the house.

Never use your kids to get something in the cunning fashion. Usually the house is sold afterward divorce since neither partner can afford the repayments month after month on their own. Join the other hand if one spouse can in fact afford to take on the entire loan then that partner should give the house. If you have been given custody of the house it is advisable to request your partner to vacate immediately. On the other hand if the court proceedings are still on then the partner who moves out first is generally looked upon as the one with higher moral standards. While one partner can request removal so can the other file in the court for their right to remain. In any case have a backup plan in case you are the one who loses the house.

Nothing is guaranteed in a divorce case so do not count your chickens before they are hatched. If one of the partners works from home or runs a small business from home they are more likely to be given custody of the premises since they would face the bigger inconvenience if they were to move out. Working from home simply means that the place is more valuable to you.

Remember if you leave the house first then it will probably the view at the end of the court case. Before you make any such hasty decisions have a good talk with your lawyer. On the other hand get good financial advice-you do not want property that you cannot afford to maintain or repay loans on. Can you afford to make repairs on the house as and when required? Can you take care of the repairs yourself if you cannot afford to hire help? In case you are the one who is given custody of the house do change the locks as soon as possible. You do not want your ex spouse to be entering without your consent. This is all the more important if you fear any kind of revenge. There have been cases where one partner has physically assaulted the other after a bitter divorce.

Finally we would like to advise-if you feel that the house rightfully belongs to the other spouse do not make yourself and your partner go through unnecessary trauma by fighting over the property. It is better to let go and to move on hand to have an unnecessary trial, you lose the trial and then move on.

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Frequently Asked Questions

    why do gay people want to get married so badly if every marriage in history ends up in divorce?
    do they want to know how divorce feels like?

    • ANSWER:
      marriage sucks. gay ppl deserve to be as miserable as everyone else. theyre too happy.

    Mom ignores me since she got new bf. How to get her to be motherly again?
    Hey. My parents divorced about three years ago and just this year mom began dating again. She is seeing this guy who has three kids. She stays at his house most nights, which means I am alone. When I do see her she acts like I’m bothering her. I’ll ask her if we can do things and she’ll get angry and say I’m smothering her. Or she’ll say we’ll do something and then she’ll never show up. When I call she screens me.but if I call from someone else’s phone she’ll answer and then be upset that it’s me calling. Like I called from grandma’s phone and mom was like, “Oh, well I though you were your grandma, could you put her on.” I said I called because I wanted to talk and she just got angry and hung up.

    Now I also learned that later this month mom and her boyfriend and his kids will be going camping for a week. I asked mom what I’d need and she said it was just for them and I’d be with my grandma that week. I told her I’d love to go but she said I’d just be in the way. This has made me super angry. I just don’t get her.

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    How to transfer purchases from iPod to new iTunes?
    So I am helping a friend transfer her purchased music from her iPod to her new iTunes on a new computer.

    We got to the part where it asks for an email and password to authorize the music being transferred, but since it wasn’t her account she doesn’t know the password. The guy won’t tell us the password, since they’re getting in a divorce and he is pretty ticked about it.

    Is there anyway we can go around the authorization and transfer the music from her iPod onto her iTunes?

    • ANSWER:

    Should I just get a divorce, or seek an affair?
    Ok, here it goes. I am a married man in my 30’s. My wife and I have been married for 12 years and we have a son. I have been 100% faithful to my wife throughout our marriage, and as far as I know, she has been to me. Our relationship used to be Romantic, fiery and passionate and I felt completely fulfilled in every way. Over the past few years all of this has changed dramatically. Although I have continually tried to spice things up, my wife is unreceptive to me. I’ve tried talking it out and listening, but she gives no meaningful suggestions on how to turn things around. Twelve years ago, I thought I found the woman of my dreams, but it has dwindled to almost nothing. If she ever agrees to have sex at all (which is almost never), she treats it like it’s some kind of chore, and I end up feeling terrible. We used to kiss passionately, and it would turn me on so much, but now if she ever gives me a kiss at all, it is about like how my grandmother used to kiss me (yikes!). She is always too tired, or doesn’t feel well, or not in the mood, or (pick your favorite excuse) because I’ve heard them all. I feel that I have exhausted my efforts to bring some romance back in our marriage and realistically, I don’t see things changing. I need that romance in my life once again, and I need to be fulfilled sexually as well as other ways, and I want to fulfill my wife the same way. I am simply not getting what I need and haven’t for quite some time now. I would leave today, but the only thing keeping me around now is my son who is 6 years old. It would break my heart not to see him grow up and not be involved in his daily life. So what do I do? This may sound shallow, but I’m considering seeking out an affair to get what I am missing in my marriage. I am not the cheating type, but life is simply too short to live how I am now.

    • ANSWER:
      I am truly sorry to hear about your situation. Unfortunately, there is no true way to ensure that you will get through these barriers, but take note that everything you do in your marriage will affect any outcome that arises if legal action is ever taken. So, if you are thinking about an affair I suggest that you seriously weigh all your options and be certain that you know everything it could have an affect on in your life and family.

      It would be a good idea for you to start speaking with various divorce attorneys and to start understanding how to better protect yourself and your interests should you end up needing a divorce. Having all of this knowledge beforehand is far better than having to learn it in the heat of the moment.

      An affair can have numerous legal ramifications that you may not be aware of. The laws are different in every state, but many people don’t realize that a cheating spouse does affect the court’s decisions even in no-fault states. While it is true that evidence of a spouse’s loose morals is not needed to grant a divorce and that misconduct does not affect the distribution of the marital assets, cheating can affect child custody and maintenance (sometimes called alimony).

      If you are in or thinking about starting a new relationship but not yet divorced, ask yourself: What do I care about more? Having custody of my kids or having a new relationship? You can generally do one or the other, but probably not both.

      You might also want to spend some time on as they are an excellent, free resource for men who are facing (or potentially facing) a divorce. You can learn a lot there about the process and things you can start doing to protect yourself. There is even an “Ask a Lawyer” section where you can ask questions and have them answered by real attorneys.

    How to help my mom’s gambling and alcohol problem?
    My brother and I, 13 and 14, live with our parents next to a gambling bar and usually when my mom gets bored or starts drinking, she goes gambling next door and gets drunk. When she runs out of money, she comes home and tries to take my dad’s money. But my dad doesn’t like that, so they get into fights and usually we end the night with my mom sleeping at some other place and my dad looking for her at 2 a.m. It gets worse though. When my mom and dad are both drunk, they fist fight and doesn’t look fun. I sit in my room and close my ears and cry until I fall asleep 3 times a month (at least). I got this account on yahoo answers to help maybe a little bit with my moms problem. We can’t move, and I don’t want them to divorce because the last time they almost divorced, my dad got hammered every night for three weeks and scared me. I just want them to be happy, but at the same time, I want myself to be happy too. I pray to god every night that it gets better, but it never does. PLEASE, PLEASE HELP.

    • ANSWER:
      What a horrible life for you and your brother.
      Do you have any relatives you can go live with that will give you a safe and secure life.
      There is a group called alanon, they can help you understand that you need to take care of yourself. If that means moving out and living with a good family relative then you gotta do that.

      I would write your parents a note and explain to them what your life is like. But don’t accept them to change, until they want to change. Obviously they have no concept of how they are affecting your life.

      I pray that you and your brother can NOT repeat the same life as your parents. I would suggesting never drinking or gambling… saw it in your parents and you defiantly don’t want to do the same thing in your life. Get a good education and get out with your sanity,

Glow Sticks Are Easy To Handle And Extremely Cost-effective

These days’ individuals globally are utilizing better alternatives in night-time functions and mishaps with improving times. Now, LED glow sticks are the perfect common illuminating sources. The entire illuminating needs might be achieved through these night glow products. Their conveniences make it fashionable with the public, they are simple to carry, reusable, are much better at dispersing of light and extremely functional in general. In comparison to ordinary lighting they are an excellent option to add light to the dark. With this post we will discuss more about the special attributes of these.

Online vendors have offered lots of choices for the average man these days. Much like every other product the LED glow sticks are as well offered in a number of color choices. Offering shine in your event is only a mouse click away. With special purchase all of us may modify as per our specifications. These products glow in a single or multiple colours from bright colours to blue, pink, red, and yellow and green are many of the best-selling colors that are mixed up in the illuminating products. LED glow sticks are handy unlike the chemically charged units which are supplied in shops. Simple to handle and use it like a band, on your hand helps make it an excellent choice. These carry a power switch for starting.

Different configurations are right to left and the other way around, flashing and permanent on light display. Glow sticks are easy to handle and extremely cost-effective. They supply peak illumination right where and how you want it. They’re heat proof and you can maintain it close to your skin without risking your garments. The systems used are electron movements which ensures that you have optimal brightness exactly where and how you need it. Light up toys are a major lure in night-time functions these objects give trendiness to all the parties. These days’ young people enjoy theme events and Halloween events aren’t complete lacking the glow sticks.

LED glow sticks add curiosity and excitement and entertainment to your event. The right party touch and evening celebrations are all the more entertaining with glow necklaces. Youngsters dance with them and hold it up and it has certain enthusiasm in the people. They’re one of the suggested safety equipment utilized currently. LED glow sticks are among the most helpful and essential accessories in disaster kits in your home, car or places of work. These are used in different circumstances be it for individual or work use.

We are now living in an unreliable environment and ecological calamities are aspect of our way of life, they assist in power failures, quakes and are a perfect security tool. They are wind resistant, water proof and fire proof making them superb security instrument in many instances. LED glow sticks have proven to be perfect lighting sources in unpleasant conditions. It is a low maintenance product. Individuals from all areas of life and all age categories and integrate them in their everyday living with ease and make the most of them. They don’t have an expiration time; the only thing it needs is to be stacked in a cool, moisture-free area and far from the sun.

Divorce Mortgage Advice

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Mortgages After Divorce

When a marriage breaks down one of the biggest problem areas is finance. Each member of the couple has a feeling of insecurity immediately. Where, they wonder, will they live after separation and divorce? They will need to consider divorce mortgages – where the lender understands the situation from which the couple have come and does everything to help people make a new start.

A home, perfectly naturally, has a feeling of security, but as soon as that security is under threat, emotions are raised. A home is where you will have been with your spouse, and possibly raised a family too. So when things go wrong, it is no wonder that people put up their defences. However difficult it will be the subject of finances will have to be discussed between husband and wife, and divorce mortgages will have to be raised.

It is important to ensure that current payments on the house are maintained: existing mortgage payments, house and contents insurance, endowment policies. Arrangements to cover these costs should be made immediately, as non-payment will lead to anger, resentment, and worse – a possible blot on credit ratings.

Emotions will be running high, but it is important to discuss financial affairs sensibly with a view to the future for both parties. Independent legal advice is the best way forward as each seeks to secure a mortgage after divorce. If circumstances ended up meaning a court had to decide the division of finances then it may mean one party gets more money than the other, but both parties should realise that there is only so much to go round. Financial stress can be such that during separation and even after divorce, couples still consider living under the same roof to avoid the need for another mortgage after divorce.

If there is enough money in the pot to buy two houses, then mortgages after divorce would not present a problem, and a court would primarily be concerned about the welfare of any children.
However, if there is not enough money to fund two post-divorce mortgages, the court will of course consider selling the original home and dividing the proceeds as it sees fit. Again, the primary consideration will be for the needs of the children. A home has to be provided for any children, whatever the hopes and needs of the other parent.
It is unlikely that either party will ‘lose everything’ as the court has wide powers in aportioning assets. However, it could also rule that the deeds of the house are transferred in full to one party.

One or both parties can easily be left searching for a mortgage after divorce. It is very difficult thing to have to do at a time of great stress. Some building societies specifically provide divorce mortgages. Sometimes one party appears to take charge of financial affairs, and this can leave the other party feeling vulnerable and unsure. Mortgage brokers can help in this situation. Divorce mortgages cater for the fact that you may need to minimise your monthly mortgage payments until finances are under control. Divorce mortgages can provide additional features and benefits which will not be available when you choose a mortgage from a standard range.

About the author: An author on a variety of property related subjects, which include mortgage rate reviews and detailed analysis of the role mortgage brokers provide in the current climate.


Frequently Asked Questions

    A divorce and a shared Mortgage, I need advice!?
    When I divorced my exhusband, he claimed he wanted the house and he would refinance and take care of it. On our divorce papers, it was agreed that my name would be off the mortgage by February of 2009. Now it is coming up on February 2010, and he is still sitting on it. After being denied a refinance due to the declining value of the home, he put the home up for sale. After some proscrastinating, I contacted him today to find that noone has even looked at the house in two months. What can I do, does anyone have any advice?
    I never hired an attorney when I filed for divorce. I’m trying to avoid spending any money on this, because I simply don’t have the money to spend.

    • ANSWER:
      Unfortunately at this point your options maybe limited to not only force the sell and save your credit without some out of pocket cash from your side

      Contact the old lawyer on the divorce case

      Though in reality the essential part to the whole problem is there equity in the home? If the case then you should be in good shape, it may cost some legal fees to force the sell if the ex will not drop the price to sell and forget out the hope of making something of the sale, but at least you can move it

      if the home is negative equity then your credit is on the line, unless you take out of pocket to cover the difference in equity; the divorce order has no authority/jurisdiction over the lender only your ex, as such the lender is going to hold you just as liable for the loan as they will the ex, so a short sale or foreclosure will ding your credit

    Need good solid advice! Alcoholic husband own house, no mortgage, if I divorce I will loose so much, HELP ME !?
    Husband starting drinking after 6 months getting married, we’re married now 33 yrs, I still think he’ll
    change – I know I’m crazy, but we’ve got to the stage where everything but everything is all my fault, I
    come home from work every day by 6.10 or so, I’m timed, my husband is either slumpt in a chair worse for several bottles, or standing unable to put 2 words together, although I keep diaries from year to year on a daily basis, my GP cannot help, as in his words – without tying a rope around his neck I can’t get him to the surgery ! He has to admit to having a problem. Your thoughts, I am in my late 50’s

    • ANSWER:

    Due to a recent divorce; I need home advice-?
    Due to a recent divorce, I need advice; I have an outstanding home equity of ,000 and the present home mortgage is 0,000 and the home is valued at 5,000, what would be the house payment if I was to keep the house. Would I be better off selling? Is there a way to figure out what the hosue payment would be?

    • ANSWER:
      There are mortgage calculators available online that you can plug in your information and get rough payments.

      If you had 30 years remaing on the 250k at 6%, your monthly payment would be 00.39.

      As for your HELOC (Home Equit Line of Credit), how much have you spent of it? You might be able to pull 50k out, but how much have you actually used?

      If you owed the full 300k and were able to refinance it into a single 30 yr fixed loan at 6%, you’d see a monthly payment of 00.50 and possibly be charged for PMI.

    How to enforce divorce decree to remove name from mortgage?
    My boyfriend’s divorce decree indicated that his ex “shall remove his name from the existing mortgage by refinancing w/in 90 days of the effective date of the agreement”. It’s been 9 months and she has not put the house up for sale and was denied refinancing recently (long after she should have been requesting refi). (She pays her payments late and therefore she probably won’t be able to refinance, but his name and credit is ruined and it continues to worsen as this continues to be drawn out.)

    What are our options?

    Shouldn’t there be consequences or at least some way to force her to live by the divorce decree, without making us pay for legal fees because of her irresponsibility?

    Note: He helped her purchase the house for her & the kids while going thru the divorce. She has had, but now legally has sole responsibility for and access to the house – but his name remains on the mortgage.

    Advice needed!

    • ANSWER:
      Why doesn’t he sent a letter to the legal department of the mortgage company with a certified copy of the divorce decree & Judgement entry via certified mail…..

      Also tell him to cc the county recorder’s office.

    Divorce advice!!! help needed!?
    This is a long one so bear with me!

    In January 2008, my wife walked out on me. I was aware she had some debts and I got upset (well angry..Not physically of-course!) and she just left.

    We didn’t file for divorce as my wife said she just needed some space and so I waited. I continued, as I always did (and always have) to pay the mortgage, council tax etc.

    All of my wifes income, which was £40k, was disposable, throughout our marriage. She texted me every day to say she loved me when she left, how was I, do you want to meet up etc. So I just played along, like a fool!

    Anyway, in October 2008, I found out that she was seeing someone. I was deeply upset and so, I started to see someone in November. It was awkward being with another woman but female company was nice but I still loved my wife. However, in December a week before christmas, I found out that not only was her boyfriend 21 (she is 30, I am 33) but that they had been in a serious relationshiop since February 2008, only after 4 weeks of walking out on me!

    To make matters worse, on Xmas eve, I opened one of her letters in error, and it was a CCJ from the HSBC, saying she was over her allowance. I have since found out, she has accumulated about £20k of debt. I have no idea how, but I think it was clothes, as I used to find lots of them in the back of her car, sent to her work address. Her credit card bills were 90% attributable to ASOS (Which is an on-line clothes shop I have since found out)?

    I am seeing a Solicitor tomorrow to file a divorce. However, my wife has said she is prepared for me to buy her out for £15k. I get to keep the house and she will sign to say I am not responsible for any of her debts.

    To make things more complicated, I have a new job and I have to move in 4 weeks. I can’t sell the house in this time, so I will have to rent it out. However, I can only buy my wife out, with a long term loan on the mortgage. This will put my borrowing to £205k, and the house is worth about £240k, but this is coming down as we all know!!!

    So questions!

    All of the debt is in her name (on her credit cards, with no loans on the house). Am I liable for this?
    Our house is in both our names (her credit card is with HSBC with the CCJ as is our moartgage) can they come after our house, even if she never paid any of the mortgage, or gave me any money towards anything?
    Should I buy my wife out, or is renting my own flat to much of a pain?

    I am deeply upset with all this, as I still love her deeply but I can’t afford to stay with her (she is too much of a risk) and I will never be able to forget about her boyfriend and how she lied to me for so long, saying how she missed me, but just needed space.

    Please help me, I desperately need advice! Oh and a virtual hug if that is possible!

    • ANSWER:
      if she is willing to let you buy her out…. for 15k… get it in writing… and have her sign it…. in front of witnesses… and have the witnesses sign it as well.

      otherwise… she can go back on her word…. and say that she never said that.

      yes… since you are legally married… her debts during marriage… are also your debts.

The Cure For Frequent Panic Attacks

It can be very disheartening when a hassle and bummer to deal with panic attacks. This condition often debilitates its victims and leaves the sufferer feeling helpless. This is not true at all though! These tips can help you effectively treat your panic attacks and deal with anxiety issues.

By focusing on the music, your body will have the chance to relax and release the tensions.

A good therapist can help you to stop panic attacks at their source. There are several reviews on the Internet to help you can use to find a local therapist.

If you are in the midst of a panic attack, it can help you get over it quickly. Fighting against your fear is the most effective way to get control of it for good.

If you can take control of your breathing, you will be able to control your anxiety and get the attack under control. Deep breathing can be a very effective in reducing the bad feelings and regaining control.

Seeing a therapist is very helpful in dealing with panic attacks. Just having the symptoms can make you feel better and decrease your panic attacks.

Feeling alone can make it much harder to manage your anxiety. Having a good support system will help you are experiencing. Friends are always there for you.

As the fear of a panic attack begins to overtake you, reflect upon whether there is indeed something to be afraid of within your immediate surroundings. Is anyone actually something or someone there that is threatening or harmful to you? Most likely your answer is no, you will not be answering yes to these questions, so try to remain calm and allow your fear to slowly go away.

As you have read, there are various ways to treat and cope with panic attacks. Try different things and remember to be patient until you find the exact cause of your stress and find something efficient against it. By following the advice in the article above, your doctor will be able to come up with a plan of action to treat your panic attacks.

Simple Tips: How To Avoid Anxiety Attacks

Is your anxiety more than just the standard worries and is it really getting to you? If you are, you should speak with a medical professional, and you might need medical attention. The following article below gives you the most effective ways to help with your anxiety.

Count your breaths and relax as you breathe to relax. For optimum results, do your best to pick a quiet spot to practice your controlled breathing.

Laughter can play a big part in the best medicine when it comes to dealing with anxiety. Watch a funny movie, read a book that makes you chuckle, or call someone funny on the phone to give you some good positive vibes.

Find someone that you can trust completely. You will be able to talk about your feelings of anxiety issues with this person. Don’t let your feelings bottled up; talk to someone you can make a big difference to be able to confide in a reliable person. Keeping your feelings inside can worsen your problems to worsen.

Set daily goals for yourself every day. This will allow your mind occupied and prevent you from thinking negatively and causing anxiety.

Practice methods of deep breathing deeply to help defeat anxiety attacks. Anxiety may lead to hyperventilating when taking shallow breaths, so you should take care to breathe deeply from your diaphragm. You can reduce anxiety by gently breathing deeply, watching your stomach rise and fall with each breath.

You should now have a better idea about anxiety in general and what you can do to fight it off. These aren’t something that you can beat on your own or by ignoring them. Fortunately, you can find help from available treatments. By using the excellent information that you read here, you will be able to decrease your symptoms of anxiety.

Keep Your Skin Radiant And Youthful With These Tips

Taking good care of your skin is about beauty. You will learn to make your skin healthy and beautiful!

One way to keep your skin that’s glowing and youthful looking is to regularly exfoliate it. Exfoliating allows you to remove a layer of dead cells which makes your fresher cells.

Using a moisturizer is the best tip for keeping skin maintenance. Moisturizers help you have young looking skin from becoming dry. You can use a moisturizer to keep the skin looking good by keeping it moisturized.

Spend more time outdoors in the sun to improve acne free. Try walking to the park on your lunch break or simply standing outdoors every day.Sunshine is a source of vitamin D, one of the vitamins essential for healthy skin.

If you suffer from very dry skin, use an exfoliating cream to open up your pores and prevent unsightly acne. Exfoliation can assist the help it needs to shed dead cells on the top of the skin. This will make your skin look better and full by keeping cells hydrated.

Apply sunscreen with a sponge rather than your face. This method is also helpful in getting rid of sunscreen.

Vitamin H promotes healthy looking skin. It creates a natural glow.

Getting 8 hours of sleep is essential to keeping your skin care. Sleep deprivation can cause skin around the eyes to wrinkle.Try sleeping at least eight hours each night for better skin and to keep your stress down.

Drinking plenty of water is essential for good skin. Skin cells will lack hydration without at least 64 ounces of water a day.When your skin does not get the water it needs, it can get irritable, itchy and dry. To prevent this from happening, and bring your skin the bounce and resiliency it needs, make sure to maintain a steady intake of water.

There are a ton of skin care products and skin care treatments, so you do not have to spend a fortune to get healthier skin. By just using a few of these tips you will see a big result with little effort.